Grief communication occurs in grief-stricken people, through their emotions , actions, and words. Kübler-Ross placed much emphasis on communication. When a person is approaching death and is going through the five stages of her model she believed that person wanted to review their life, the illness they have, and their imminent death. When a patient and physician could discuss this courageously and candidly a good death would be possible. [ dubious – discuss ] This model and her thoughts are influential to health care providers; it provides guidance to approaching and interacting with people experiencing grief.
When my mother died, Christmas a year ago, I wondered what I was supposed to do in the days afterward—and many friends, especially those who had not yet suffered an analogous loss, seemed equally confused. Some sent flowers but did not call for weeks. Others sent well-meaning e-mails a week or so later, saying they hoped I was well or asking me to let them know “if there is anything I can do to help.” One friend launched into fifteen minutes of small talk before asking how I was, as if we had to warm up before diving into the churning waters of grief. Without rituals to follow (or to invite my friends to follow), I felt abandoned, adrift. One night I watched an episode of “24” which established the strong character of the female President with the following exchange about the death of her son:
Aging: realism and resignation expressed in proverbs. For most pre-industrial cultures, life's last chapter has been a bitter one. Surviving folklore ...